The article below explores how women are holding on to a lot of things and the importance of being able to set things down occasionally.
This time of year, in addition to the daily things we must hold, the approaching holidays throw more at us with family and social obligations, travel, finding that perfect gift. There is a feeling that we must keep piling things onto our plates or the feeling that we should do it all. Often, we are the ones putting that pressure on ourselves. So, we are the ones who can change it.
As the article explains, some things in life are harder to put down such as work or parenting. However, if we could take a moment to step back and look at all of the places we are putting our energy, there is likely something that we could step away from or exercise the ability to say no to, as hard as that may be.
Some things to try:
Put your phone away for a period of time each night. Stay in the moment with what you are doing and who you are with. Breaking from social media every now and then can be healthy to avoid feeling as though you are not doing enough. It is also good to note that life goes on, even if you are not connected all of the time!
Step outside and breathe deeply. Fresh air and the practice of deep breathing can relax your mind and body in minutes.
Say No! Hard when things are asked but take a moment to stop and think about what you have going on and if you truly have space for more in your life. No. It is a complete sentence and does not require further explanation, it is enough.
Do something you love. Take a walk, engage in a hobby, be still. Whatever can help re-energize you is important and worth taking time for.
Ask for help. All of the people you are holding things for in some way are capable of helping to lighten your load, but they may not know what to do. Simply asking family, partners, even kids to pitch in benefits everyone. Others may want to help but they are not sure what to do so it all starts with asking!